How To Flirt With A Guy

how to flirt with a guy

You should praise, criticize and flirt with people right to their face, only then it will make a difference. ~ Amit Kalantri (Tweet this)

Knowing how to flirt with a guy is an act that comes quite naturally to some of us, but some of us need a little extra practice. There is nothing wrong with a person who needs some tips on how to flirt with a guy. Flirting can be easy, fun, and pivotal in building a relationship.

Learn how to flirt with a guy:

Ladies, if you have your eye on someone special, these fool proof tips will help you approach a guy without feeling awkward and will instantly result in the guy warming up to you.

1. Maintain eye contact

Let’s say you have spotted someone across the room—at a bar, a dinner party, or any other social gathering. It may seem impossible to approach that charming looking fellow, but I assure you, you can do it! Catch his eye and maintain eye contact. He will likely look away at first because it could just be coincidence, but if he looks back and sees you looking at him still, his interest will be peaked.

2. Put on your happy face

Smiling is the answer to a lot of life’s problems, and flirting is no exception. Whether you have known the object of your affection for a long time, or have just met him, or have yet to meet him, smiling will go a long way. Smiling will remind him that you are approachable, friendly, and potentially interested. Show off those pearly whites!

3. Ask some questions

Once you two are finally chatting, ask him a few questions to let him know you are genuinely interested in his life. Ask him what he does for work, what he does for fun, how he knows the host of the party, etcetera. If you are feeling extra creative, ask him what his favorite SuperHero movie is, or if he remembers his first best friend. Asking questions is the best way to get to know a person, and to let them get to know you. Yes, this is a flirting technique!

4. Gently touch him

Once you have established a bit of a familiarity (and only once you have established this), playfully brush his arm, or rest your hand on his shoulder for a minute. Physical touch is something that all human beings respond to. If you are feeling that you two are hitting it off, gently touch him, letting him know that you really are interested in furthering the relationship past a purely friendly level.

5. Send him a text message

Once you have established at least a friendly enough relationship to exchange phone numbers, sending him a sweet good morning or good night text message can speak volumes. Texting is the new talking for some people, so reminding him that you are interested, even while you are apart is a perfect way to flirt.

6. Ask for help

Think the guy in the record store is cute, or do you like the checker at the grocery store? If you are attempting to flirt with someone at work, things can get tricky. On one hand, you don’t want to put anyone in an awkward position while they are working.

On the other hand, it is okay to ask for help from someone in a service-oriented position. Asking the cute checker to help you to your car, or the nice record store guy to help you pick out a new album is a great way to break the ice and introduce yourself. The rest will play itself out.

7. Ask him to dance

If you are at a nightclub or a dinner party with music, why not ask the object of your affection to dance with you? Dancing is a great step for how to flirt with a guy because it introduces physical touch while it can also be either very romantic, or very silly. The romantic aspect of dancing can lead to a goodnight kiss, while the silly aspect of dancing can lead to doubled-over laughing. Both are great ways of flirting.

8. Invite him out

Yes, you can make the first move! Confidence is always very attractive. If your man is just not getting the hint, ask him to dinner or a movie or for a walk before he has the chance to ask you. He is likely to say yes, and he is even more likely to ask you out first next time.

9. Playfully tease him

Jokingly teasing him about his favorite movie, or his moves on the dance floor can be really cute and fun. Teasing him about his height, or his style, or his physical appearance is probably not the best choice. Teasing should be funny for the both of you and it should never border on mean. If you can do it properly, teasing is one of the best forms of flirting.

10. Compliment him

Yes, men like compliments just as much as women do. It is important to remind the object of your affection what you like about him. Whether you just met or you have been dating for awhile, a compliment goes a really long way. “I love your eye color,” “your new haircut is very handsome,” or even, “is that a new shirt?” will remind your man why you chose him out of all of the other fish in the sea.

If you think about it too hard, flirting can be intimidating—crippling, even. Instead of turning your social interactions into forced, clammy conversations, focus on being yourself. Put on some lip-gloss and get to smilin’.

Flirting is the art of keeping intimacy at a safe distance. ~ Anonymous (Tweet this)

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About the Author

Jessica Tholmer has a degree in English Literature. Jessica is a full-time writer for a small company, but she writes for multiple other forums. Jessica writes about love, life, and everything in between for HelloGiggles, though her work has been featured on Nerve, The Gaggle, The Conversation, and The Siren as well.

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