How To Tell Someone You Like Them
Crushes are hard, and that is something most of us can agree on. When you have feelings for another person, you are often vulnerable, and vulnerability is hard for many of us. Having a crush can also be exhilarating, nerve-wracking, and kind of fun. You will experience plenty of emotions when you like someone, all the way up until the point that you just have to say something. How do you go about telling someone you like them? We’re glad you asked.
It’s nice to have a crush on someone. It feels like you’re alive, you know? ~ Scarlett Johansson (Tweet this)
7 Tips About How To Tell Someone You Like Them
Telling someone you like them is quite a daunting task. You want to get your feeling across without freaking them out! Here’s how to tell someone you like them:
1. Be there for them
If you have a crush on someone, you most likely want to support them in all of their exciting endeavors, right? Is your crush a mascot on a college basketball team? Hey, even if you can’t see his or her face, being there will prove that you are supportive of his or her extra-curriculars.
Is your crush working on a huge presentation for work? Why not offer to let him or her present it to you first?
Whatever your crush is working on in their life, offering to be there for them will prove that you are there and that you care more than the average person.
2. Treat them to something
Asking your crush out to dinner or for drinks is a surefire way to let them know that you like them. Both dinner and drinks imply something a bit more than friendliness in most situations.
By being direct and inviting your crush to spend time with you, in public, in a date-like setting, you are being pretty clear with your intentions.
Buy your crush a drink or a meal (or both) and you are shouting from the rooftops how you feel.
3. Be upfront
The first and most obvious way to tell someone that you have feelings for them is by just actually letting them know. Of course, it is absolutely terrifying to be direct in these situations, so it is okay if you prefer subtlety in this situation. If you are feeling bold and confident, why not just let your crush know that you like them.
It never hurts to hear that someone likes or loves you, so at the very least, you will be paying your crush a huge compliment.
“Just so you know, I really like you.”
It is a simple (albeit scary) sentence, but you are more than capable of saying it. (Or writing it, if that is more up your alley.)
4. Share something
Do you have a favorite book that you love to recommend? Why not let your crush borrow it? First of all, you are creating an excellent opportunity for you and your crush to discuss something you both have in common.
Secondly, by lending your crush something important to you (like your favorite book), you are showing him or her that you have faith in them. When he or she is done with your book, you two can meet for coffee or a drink to discuss it. Lending your personal items to another person is a great way of baby-stepping toward letting them know how you feel.
5. Be clear with your goal
Once you have mustered up the courage to tell your crush how you feel, there are a few things to keep in mind. Most importantly, you want to be clear with your intentions. Do you think your crush is funny and cute and kind? Do you get romantic dreams with your crush? Great! But what does that really mean?
Do not keep all the secrets to yourself. Tell your feelings out to the person who you think is cute, tell your feelings to that person who you are dreaming of. Tell it all to the person you love.
If you are not clear in your communication, you risk confusing yourself as well as your crush. Are you interested in dating them exclusively? Are you interested in just going out on one date? What are your dreams and goals for this interaction? Make sure you use your words and have a plan.
6. Don’t be too charming
Some people are naturally charming, which is wonderful. If you are not naturally charming, or if you have to think too hard about how to come across as such, don’t sweat it. Telling your crush that you like him or her is nerve-wracking enough without pressuring yourself to come across a certain way.
Say what you want to say, be complimentary and kind, and be prepared to accept whatever response comes your way. Pressuring yourself to do anything but those things will not set you up for success.
If charm comes naturally, great—if it is forced, it can seem insincere and not genuine.
7. Be prepared
Arguably the most important part of how to tell someone you like them is the outcome. There is a good chance that your crush may not feel the same way about you and you have to prepare yourself to be okay with that result. Once you are direct, clear, and open with your feelings, you cannot expect the recipient to immediately know how to respond.
You have had ample opportunity to prepare yourself for what to say and to think about how you feel, but remember that this might come as a surprise to your crush.
Be prepared to be patient and be prepared to be let down. It is not a for sure, but there is a chance it can happen. Take the high road and try not to have any hard feelings toward the person afterward.
That being said, there is a positive outcome as well. If your crush reciprocates your feelings, great! Welcome to the beginning of a hopefully beautiful relationship. You did it!
Learning how to tell someone you like them (or even gathering up the courage) is not easy for any of us. It is scary to be so vulnerable and it is intimidating to be so direct. Whether you ask your crush on a date, support them in their endeavors, or simply tell them directly how you feel, you are capable of handling the outcome. Good luck!