5 First Date Tips For Women
First dates are without a doubt one of the most hopeful experiences ever. Do you have one booked? Are you hoping this could be Him? Then you would want to read this and set the right pace for a possibly great relationship.
LOVE is like a virus, it can happen to anybody at any time. ~ Maya Angelou (Tweet this)
This is not the first time that dating advice for women has been given and I am sure you have heard the usual suspects:
- Wear something pretty, but comfortable;
- Be on time;
- Don’t eat or drink too much; and
- The classic “be yourself.”
It all sounds good, but being yourself is a tricky concept. There are many versions of you, and some of them are better to show off on a date than others. So what will help you take his breath away and guarantee you a second date? If you want it, that is!
Here are a few first date tips for women out there to help them dazzle their date and have a perfect day:
1. Ask him questions
It shouldn’t be like you are interrogating him, but we all like to talk about ourselves. Not to mention you will keep the mystery around yourself. Here are a few questions that will give you that certain je ne sais quoi:
- Where are you from? What was your childhood like?
- What is your wildest dream?
- How did you choose your work?
How would those questions help? They are not too personal so you won’t make him uncomfortable, but they are just personal enough so you understand more about him and make him feel interesting.
Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love . . . but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love. ~ Mandy Hale (Tweet this)
2. Listen . . . and hear
Asking questions is great, but it would also be useful to listen. First of all, for the sake of conversation, and second, because you need to make sure he is right for you. After all, you wouldn’t want to attract someone you don’t really like.
While he talks, focus on what he is saying and even on what he is not saying (his body language, tone of speech, gestures). One of the tools that dating coaches recommend is describing your perfect partner and separate the characteristics in two groups: ones you can compromise and ones you can’t.
If you ask me, I am not a big fan of looking for love the same way you do your weekly shopping, but doing that list does give you clarity on what you want. And if you have that clarity, truly hearing him is the next step to know whether he has potential to be The One.
3. Put on red
Men are like bulls: they notice red and it turns them on, even subconsciously. It’s a vibrant color that shows you as a brave, fun, sexy lady. If you can’t find anything red in your closet, an accessory or red lipstick would do. According to world-renowned author Larisa Renar, red is a symbol of the feminine energy and you want to be feminine on your first date.
The most difficult part of dating is the initial invitation. ~ Janell L. Carroll (Tweet this)
4. Laugh at his jokes
I have heard the popular dating advice “be funny” more than I want to admit. But we often lose our speech when facing the man of our dreams. That’s alright, no need for you to be Chris Rock as long as you laugh at his jokes. Or at least smile—even if it’s not that funny.
Fake laughs are like fake orgasms: they are not real for you, but you’re not the only person in the room.
5. Don’t have sex
Talking about orgasms, it’s a bit too early for them on the first date. Cliche advice, I know, but you’d be surprised how many girls ignore it and then suffer. There is only one reason you could possibly allow sex after the first date and that’s if you are absolutely sure that sex is all you want from this person. So are you?
I am not saying it is impossible to start a great relationship with sex on the first date, but you need to realize how much you lower your chances. While a man wants to have sex with you, he thinks of you more often, calls you and has the chance to get to know you even unintentionally.
When he has sex with you, you become a trophy. If the sex was good, or if he doesn’t have any other options at this moment, he could come back, but will it be because he really likes you or because he likes your body?
Dating is like using the treadmill. If you don’t do it often enough, you might as well not do it at all. ~ Beverly Grossman (Tweet this)
There was a time that dating was a bit obsolete and we all met partners at the bar or through friends, or at work. But dating has returned for good. With most of us leading busy and hectic lives, more and more people turn to online dating websites and matchmaker’s services.
This makes the hopeful first date experience inevitable, so if you want to succeed out there, it is important to learn how. For more amazing first date tips for women, and tips on how to get that first date, read the Dating Guide For Girls And Women: From I “Like Him” To “I Date Him.” You can find it on Amazon.
A first date can be romantic, but tricky. Hope these first date tips keep you safe until you can unguard your privacy and build trust.
Pretty Ladies . . . get going and have fun—but within your comfort zone!