Most of us live under the assumption that we know ourself the best, but it is actually the opposite. In testing situations our response surprises our own self. Either we deal with the situation in a courageous manner or we fall in a pit leaving us feeling guilty. This indicates lack of self awareness.
Once a person shared this experience with me. He still can’t believe his reaction and is searching for the reason of his reaction as noted below.
My friend is a calm and happy going person. He and his boss were having a tough relationship. One day they both started confronting each other. The boss said, “Do you know the power of my pen, one signature and you will be out of this office.” My friend who was in his 20’s at that time replied, “Do you know the power of my arms.”
He slapped his boss, instantly opened the door and started screaming that the boss was hitting him. That particular day my friend felt very happy and kept joking about the incident. But now when he thinks about it, he feels ashamed and guilty. He still doesn’t know what prompted him to slap his boss. He never loses his temperament but that day surprised him and he is still searching for an answer.
Due to lack of self awareness most of us stay confused in life and fail to identify our goal for the life.
How to identify Self
To identify self let’s do a simple exercise with an honest attempt. Pick up a pen and paper and start writing about your strong points. Do not limit yourself with number of words or points. It could be your external or internal strength.
Question yourself as simple as, “Do I look good when I wear a pink dress” or as complex as “Can I empathize with people easily”. The idea is to identify self-worth and not feel bad by degrading self. Identification of your strengths will help to value self which you might have. It will help in uncover your treasures and cover your weaknesses.
Many a time we choose a career which we do not enjoy and later regret. We get so caught up in life that it gets too late to take corrective steps.
Chetan Bhagat, the famous fiction writer, did engineering, moved on to the finance field to work for a reputed bank. Though he earned good money – something was still missing. He kept on thinking and one day realized that his first love was writing.
He left the job to follow his passion. Had he thought about it earlier he could have devoted all those years to satisfy his thrust. His self realization led to self awareness which brought immense self satisfaction. Today his achievements are world known.
In today’s competitive world we want to grab each and every opportunity without recognizing our strengths that lead to failures. Failures cause depression, stress and low self esteem. In order to regain our hidden qualities one has to rebuild one’s inner strength and good self esteem by following these few steps.
Tips to develop self awareness
Say thank you for any praise you get: Acknowledge, if someone praises you. Most of the time we prefer not to take the credit of our good work done by us. Indirectly we tell our brain that we do not value self.
Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a winner.
Note down your achievements and read them occasionally. It will boost your morale and confidence.
Do small activities that you love to do. Follow your hobby
Be with positive people. Accompanying them will change your thinking from negative to positive and inner peace will start pouring in.
Read self motivation books. It will take you out of depression.
Stop comparing: To get out of the trap of this constant comparison you have to develop a strong belief in yourself. It is impossible to be like everyone else and still be your own person. In a world of individuals comparison is a senseless activity.
Remember you are unique in this world. Every individual has its own beauty and each mind has its own method. So believe in your strength.
Tip # 9
Never allow anyone to victimize you. Respect and love yourself and the world will do same for you.
Stop placing other people above yourself in value and worth.
Always be creatively alive in every situation and be happy. There is no way to happiness but happiness opens up all the ways.
Have positive attitude towards life. Remember, problem is not an issue, it is your attitude that is the problem. So always find positivity in negativity. It will provide enormous strength to fight all odds.
Last but not the least, you are the creation of God and God has blessed you with enthusiasm, power, love, respect, originality, beauty and many more. So explore these qualities in yourself and create a powerful world around you.
That will be a true self awareness in real sense.