The World is full of people who hate their lives in one or other way. In fact, people cling on to their past for fear of change. They just do not want to change “things they hate” because they are afraid of change.
If you want to stop hating your life and bring a positive energy into it, you will have to let go your fears. Once you realize “whatever happens, everything will be fine”, you can create a better life for yourself.
List things you hate
First, make a list of things you hate about your life, don’t just say “I hate my life”. Be specific instead of being vague.
For instance, instead of saying “I hate my job”, try to list things you really hate about your job – like your schedule, pay or colleagues or boss.
Be focused on your life and do not look outside it. In this list, you can add your personal things also like – if you dislike your body or any of your habit or lack of self-respect. This list will help you identify the weak areas of your life where you can work.
The basic point is to start loving your life again, you need to change your attitude and bring tolerance in your behavior. The negativity in your life ruins only your life, nobody else’s; remember this.
List Positive Things
Next step would be listing positive things you want to bring into your life.
For instance, you can wish for a better relationship, better job or increased pay or lot more.
The best thing you can do here is to list positive aspects of the thing you hate. If you hate your job, think of your job’s positive aspects like – regular/fixed income or health benefits or a good friend you have at work.
Creating a list of the good things you have in your life helps you become focused to bring positivity in your behavior. Instead of keep thinking of negative things, you will learn to love your blessings.
Let go the past
Past is the thing that makes us sad, as you tend to focus more on the negative experiences. It always happens that you keep thinking about the people that hurt you in any way in your past; it may be your parents, your friends or a colleague.
You might not be able to forgive them, but at the same time, you need not let that pain rule your life too. You need to learn to accept that certain things cannot be changed.
The best thing is to focus on the present and think of the ways to make your life happier and better.
Mingle with Positive minded people
According to experts, being in company of positive people can help you change your thought process. Try to be surrounded by positive people. Positive people tend to ignore difficulties in their lives because they are always busy focusing on their positive virtues. The company of positive people can help you make changes to stop hating your life.
Maintain a Thank You (Gratitude) Journal
Maintaining a Gratitude Journal can help you live a burden free and happier life. It will also help you focus on positive aspects of your life. It can be as small as a compliment from friend or a simple opening a door for you.
Go for counseling
If the feeling “I hate my life” still persists and if you are feeling helpless, you can go for professional counseling also or a join a therapy group.
Article by Vandana Sehgal
Vandana has written 23 articles.
Vandana is a Personality Enhancement Trainer associated with various Corporate and Management Colleges..
