How to Overcome Loneliness

Overcome Loneliness

I hate my loneliness but it loves me.’ I came across this quote recently  on the Internet. I was awestruck to see how lonesome an individual can be! If feeling lonely, it is time to see if we are ourselves responsible for it! Read on. Learn reasons for loneliness and tips to overcome loneliness

Where is the scope for loneliness?

In today’s life, there is no reason for loneliness. We need to see if we are withdrawing ourselves from society. Remember, human nature is to connect.

If you are feeling disconnected somehow, it has an alarm to get back in touch with people around you. It is always better to build bridges than walls.

To reconnect with people, we need to overcome self-built limitations:

  • Do not hold grudges. Grudges in the heart make you feel lonelier.
  • Join a gym. Exercising on a regular basis diverts your mind, helps you stay fit on one hand and on the other hand helps you build a positive attitude towards life.
  • Break barriers and talk. Having a chirpy person around helps your loneliness fade away quickly. Remember, all men are equal in the eyes of God. A rich man is not bigger than somebody poor. So, proceed forward and pass a smile on to everybody you meet. Be it a librarian, bus conductor, your postman, your friend, a colleague or even your boss. I know bosses seldom smile, but seeing you cheerful will help you strengthen your bonds with him too. Believe me! When you greet someone with a smile, a smile comes back to you.
  • Get into networking. Though, I agree that the emotional warmth in relationships has cooled down a bit these days but you can always try to shape yourself according to the norms of the day.
  • Always keep your friend circle alive as a backup to get emotional support.
  • Practice breathing to get the required positive vibe. It works!
  • If nothing works, remember what your mom asked you to do during summer holidays in your early days. Leave everything as it is get out of your house. See the beauty of nature, the greenery, and the breeze. See the sunshine and listen to the birds chirp, the rustling of grass and the trees. Nature has lots to offer us; it always brings positivity into our lives.

You have to believe that this feeling of loneliness is just momentary; a passing phase. It is easy to overcome loneliness. Feel strong. Don’t let losses and failures overpower your mind. All work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy.

Always keep in mind, ’the law of attraction.’ Nature responds to love. It responds to what you think and believe in. The more lonely and gloomy you feel the more negativity you attract to yourself. The happier you feel, the more people are attracted towards your cheerfulness and want to be your friend.

Tips to overcome loneliness

Again, get out and make friends. Just think, where is the time for loneliness?

  1. When you start a regular weekday, on the way to work or while travelling, you may have your co–passengers, radio/ iPod/MP3 player to accompany you.
  2. At work, you have your colleagues (and of course your work) to keep you engaged!
  3. When back at home or say, on a holiday you have your family and friends with you and even if you are single you can try spending time by developing a hobby.

If you are still feeling lonely, use these tips to overcome loneliness

  • Try cooking. You can always invent new dishes. Easy recipes are readily available on the Internet and cook books.
  • Write. This will help let your feelings out.
  • Dance to your favorite track. You need not be a professional dancer for that.
  • You can always tune in the radio or play some interesting music according to your choice.
  • Social networking sites will always help you reconnect with your long lost friends.
  • Read and read more. Books are your best friends!

If you still have a pretext and you say that, “hold on… I am a retired person. Help me too to overcome loneliness in my life.” I would say, apart from the abovementioned ideas, try to reach out to your children. Teach them. Play with them and develop a special bond. I, myself do that. Though, I’m not retired as yet!

Conclusion – Overcome Loneliness

There is always a difference between solitude and loneliness. As per Wordsworth, enjoy the bliss of solitude.


About the Author

Rohini Jha is an author, writer, poet and a management graduate. She ardently believes in taking life one day at a time. A spiritually inclined person, she treads life on the path of growth and self-improvement with a firm view that whatever happens, happens for the better.

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