How To Read Body Language On A Date

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You can tell a lot by someone’s body language. ~ Harvey Wolter (Tweet this)

Harvey was right. You can also tell a lot by someone’s Body Language On A Date as well. Let’s see if we can’t use that to our advantage.

First dates, second dates, and even third dates can be kind of confusing to many of us. If you are not sure how to read your date, there is one surefire way to do so: look for the body language.

Tips To Read Body Language On A Date

Body language on a date—and in any situation in fact—is one of the most tell-tale ways to know how someone feels about you. On your next date, be sure to look for these tell-tale signs.

1. Facial Expressions Matter

Though it may seem obvious, checking someone’s face is the best way to tell how they feel. Most people cannot hide how they feel about a situation, so if your date is not necessarily interested in seeing you again, you will be able to tell by reading their face.

Natural smiles, flushed cheeks, and eye contact are all great signs.

If your date seems bored, or is making forced facial expressions, you may not want to have a second date.

2. Eye Contact Is Key

Similarly, the eyes themselves are always very important. They are the windows to the soul, after all! If your date is maintaining eye contact with you throughout the night, you have a good one on your hands.

Though maintaining eye contact can be awkward for some people, it is always a good sign when someone cannot take their eyes off of you.

If you are telling a story, or simply talking about how good your meal is, pay attention to your date’s eyes. If he or she is looking back at you, take it as a good sign.

3. Show Me That Smile

The other important part of the face that you should look for? The smile, of course! Of course we have all perfected our “I’m just being nice” smile (and laugh), but it is very easy to tell when someone is smiling genuinely. If you are making your date smile—a lot—of course this is a great sign. Look for the moments that he or she can’t help but smile. That is the good stuff.

4. The Lean-in

Leaning in close to someone is a great sign, even non-romantically. Have you ever noticed that you sit close to your good friends when you are out to eat, or while watching a movie on the couch? It comes completely natural for us to lean in and sit close to our friends, regardless of the situation. On a date, the same rules apply. If you two are sitting across from one another, but are avoiding leaning in to hear one another better, it might not be a great sign of the date going well. If your date leans in to hear you better, or simply to be flirty, you are in a good spot.

Be the rock your partner can lean on throughout good times and bad times. -Anonymous (Tweet this)

5. The Simple Touch

If you are at a movie together, or out to eat, or at a crowded bar, look for the moment he or she touches your shoulder, knee, or hand. If you two are on your first or second date, your partner might not feel comfortable making a physical move yet, and that’s okay! If you two are hitting it off and he or she reaches for your shoulder or hand to help you through the crowd (or for some other reason), things are definitely going your way.

Touch comes before sight, before speech. It is thee first language and the last. It always tells the truth. -Anonymous (Tweet this)

6. Hair Play

When a woman plays with her hair, she is likely nervous or distracted—one is better than the other. Though men do not always have hair long enough to play with, if a man is running his hands through his hair, it could be a very good sign.

Either way, fiddling with one’s hair nervously is a pretty good sign that you are having a good affect on your date.

7. Crossed Arms Is A Bad Sign

Though some of us don’t know what to do with our arms when we are talking to another person, crossing one’s arms is not the best sign for romance.

Crossed arms typically represent anger, disappointment, or being uncomfortable.

When you are comfortable around a person, or when you are comfortable in a place, your arms will likely not be folded as often.

8. Walking Is Important

While you are walking to the car from the restaurant after your seemingly great first date, watch to see how your partner walks. If he or she walks right next to you, almost holding your hand, you are doing well. If your partner walks ahead of you or slightly behind you, your coordination is not speaking very strongly to how you two feel about each other.

Walking right beside you is what you should strive for.

9. Look To The Eyebrows

Eyebrows are more than just a feature to enhance your face—they are often a strong sign of how someone feels about another person. If a person’s eyebrows are turned downward, they are likely concerned. If someone’s eyebrows are lifted, it likely means they are surprised and /or interested in what you are talking about.

Eyebrows are really an interesting part of the body. Pay attention to them for great insight into how interested your date is in what you are talking about.

10. Feet Are The Key

If someone has their feet pointed toward you, they might just be in love. They say feet are controlled by the subconscious mind, which means if your feet are pointed toward someone, you feel comfortable and close to them. It has been recorded that feet follow the heart. Pay attention to not only where your partner’s feet are pointing, but to where yours are as well.

Final Thoughts

Ultimately, if you feel good about the date, it is likely reciprocated. The indicators are sometimes hard to key in on, but if you can master them, the payoff is totally worth it! Have a great time, pay attention to the body language on a date, and all will be well. Hope these dating advice on How To Read The Body Language On A Date have given you an idea on how well an observer you need to be with your date and things you need to pay attention to understand your date more comprehensively.

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About the Author

Jessica Tholmer has a degree in English Literature. Jessica is a full-time writer for a small company, but she writes for multiple other forums. Jessica writes about love, life, and everything in between for HelloGiggles, though her work has been featured on Nerve, The Gaggle, The Conversation, and The Siren as well.

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