19 Things To Look For In The First Kiss

How much can you really tell from a kiss? According to Cher, pretty much everything.

After you two have had the chance to get to know each other, flirt, perhaps date, your kiss is the time when all cards fall on the table. Because you can flirt with someone you don’t really like and even date someone you don’t even like, but people rarely kiss someone they don’t really like.

But… Will you still like each other after the kiss? And what does it tell you — is he interested in just sex or is there more? Does it predict wonderful sex life or long, boring nights? And how do you know if he likes the way you kiss?

Seriously, what should you look for in a first kiss? Here are 19 things that will tell you tons.

1. If it’s gentle…

Most men are only really gentle when they really like a girl. This doesn’t mean he’ll marry you — it’s too early for this — but a gentle kiss is the kiss of someone who wants to impress you, who wants you to feel comfortable, to feel taken care of, even loved. All and all, if you really want to be in a relationship with this man, the gentle kiss is what is guaranteed to get you there.

2. If it’s rough…

Yes, you’re right to conclude that if he likes it rough when it comes to kissing, he likes it rough when it comes to other things as well — and we don’t mean only the physical. Chances are this guy is some sort of an adrenaline junkie, even if he doesn’t look like one. He’s constantly looking for strong emotions, powerful experiences, new adventures.

It could be difficult for you to get a commitment from a guy like this, but it isn’t impossible. Just never stop playing hard to get and don’t be afraid to explore your rough side with him — trust us, he’ll get it out of you if you let him.

3. If it’s french…

French kissing is a lot more intimate than any other kind of kissing and a first french kiss is there to tell you a lot. A guy who goes directly for the french kiss is usually confident, daring and determined. He knows what he wants and no one can stop him from getting it. If you’re hoping this will turn into a long-term relationship, there’s an easy way for you to find out — just look at his attitude after you reject him a few times.

Yes, reject him — don’t pick up the phone, tell him you have other plans when he asks you out, maybe even call him last minute and cancel. If he still wants you, you’ll see, he won’t give up. Of course, don’t be mean, he is human after all.

4. If it’s not french…

Is it really a first kiss if it’s not french? Sure it is. Maybe you two are rather young or he’s shy, but giving a guy access to your lips doesn’t mean he have to dive in there to show you he really like you. A quick peck on the lips is actually the first kiss of someone who really cares and wants to take things slow.

It’s also the kiss of someone who doesn’t want to force you into anything, who’s not aggressive and always makes sure he gets a positive response before he moves on. He’s an attentive guy and would be a great boyfriend or more, you just have to take him out of his shell a bit if you really want to be with him.

5. If it’s way too french…

French kissing is nice, but if your boy takes it to a whole new level — and not in a good way — then you should know he’s not best at self control or at focusing on others. To go way too french on a first kiss means you’re all about satisfying your own urges and he doesn’t really care about what you want that much.

That’s not to say he doesn’t care about you, he may actually really like you, but he’d like to be with you on his terms — him giving you what he can give you and you being happy and satisfied with it. If you’re that crazy about him, go for it. Otherwise, beware and share certain worries you have about the potential relationship right now.

6. If he pulls your waist towards him as he kisses you…

You think he’s so in love? Not really. He could be, but if I have to give you my opinion only based on him pulling your waist towards him as he kissed you for the first time, it’s that he can’t wait to get you into bed.

7. If his hands are on your face/hair as he kisses you…

You’re kissing someone for the first time and you can feel his hands in your hair or on your face? Lucky you! Such men are usually extremely passionate and aren’t afraid to take control over things. You can rest assure he’ll always be able to take care of you and defend you.

And as if that’s not good enough news, there’s one even better. Passionate men, if they only wanted you for sex, would keep their hands around your bottoms. If he touches your hair and face, especially if he does it extremely gently, he’s really in love, so you better prepare for a very special ride.

8. If his eyes are closed…

This small give-away sign has been around for years and even though some people are trying to demean it, it’s still as powerful as always. It is, because it’s an intuitive response to close your eyes when you’re trying to make the best of something, when you’re trying to savor every second of a special moment.

That’s why, if a guy’s eyes are closed while he’s kissing you for the first time, this means he’s probably been waiting for this kiss for a long time and he wants to enjoy it fully. You can be sure he really likes you, whether it’s just physical or there’s more to it.

9. If his eyes are opened…

Well, that’s pretty self-explanatory if you’ve read what his eyes being closed means. A guy could have his eyes open while he’s kissing you and still be crazy in love, but that wouldn’t be during your first kiss. That would be when he’s kissed you for a while and he’s ready to explore new dimensions of your physical intimacy.

Put plain and simple, if a guy’s eyes are open while he’s kissing you for the first time, then he might be attracted to you physically, but that’s all there is.

10. If it’s a never ending kiss…

Some men just don’t know when to stop kissing. The fun activity that kissing is, it could become too much after a while. However, even if you’re sick and tired of his lips, you must know that a man who just can’t stop kissing you is head over heals for you.

Otherwise he’d even try to move further — as in, move you into the bedroom — or he just wouldn’t kiss you to begin with. This guy is respectful and likes you a lot, so hold onto him.

11. If it’s a pretty quick kiss…

It could mean that he’s shy, but a quick first kiss usually means he’s not sure he wants to be kissing you at all. to find out which one is it, go for a longer kiss next time you see him, then hold his hand as you’re walking down the street. If he’s happy with that, he probably was just too shy. If not, well, at least now you know.

12. If he speaks immediately after…

A first kiss with someone you really like usually stuns you for a while and that’s the case with both boys and girls. If your crush kisses you and then immediately says something, then the fact is he’s not head over heals for you.

Don’t be too quick to show him the door though, sometimes people develop feelings for one another after a while, plus the fact that he’s kissing you at all definitely means he’s physically attracted.

13. If he smiles immediately after…

Now smiling is a whole other thing. You only smile when you’re doing something you enjoy, don’t you? He does like you and what’s even better, he’s not in a hurry to get your pants off — if he were, he wouldn’t have time to show you just how happy he is.

14. If he doesn’t open his eyes right away after the kiss ends…

Man, that guy’s in love. Not only did he close his eyes to sink in the moment of kissing you, but he can’t even get out of this moment. Not opening his eyes immediately after the kiss ends means he can’t get enough of you, so this is the guy to be in a relationship with.

The only thing to be careful about is that with men who are so in love, the end of the honey moon phase may bring a lot of troubles. If you get over that successfully, you’re in it for the long run.

15. If he moves to kissing your neck and ears…

Want the kiss to last forever is one thing, but going directly for kissing your neck and ears — you can be sure this guy wants to get you in the bedroom and fast. Not only that, he’s probably done it with many other girls too.

This is a move that only true playboys go for, so be aware — you might become yet another victim of an experienced macho. I’d suggest you keep playing hard to get until you’re absolutely sure in his feelings for you. Until then, bring the kissing to the minimum as well.

16. If he kisses you out of nowhere…

He practically stole a kiss from you, you didn’t see it coming at all? This guy is rather impatient and you need to keep in mind that he’ll do things like this throughout your relationship — he’ll surprise you, and you won’t always love it.

Other than this, he’s the type of man who goes for what he wants and that’s what most women are looking for. He also really likes you, so if you’re brave enough, go for it and you could end up living happily ever after.

17. If he leans into you slowly, as if asking for permission…

Great guy to be with. He’ll never do something without checking that you’re ok with it, even if he really wants to do it. It shows he doesn’t just like you, he respects you. These guys also tend to be great kissers, because they follow your lead, notice what you like and do it. All and all, I’d say allow him to proceed.

18. If he responds well to what you do…

If you get the feeling that he really likes kissing you — and if you like kissing him too — this is a great sign that you can really try and be together. Truth is the first kiss is the first time you test how compatible you two are physically and if this doesn’t go well, other things won’t go well too. If he responds well to what you do, keep kissing, there’s something there.

19. If you hate it…

Don’t make compromises. As Samantha from “Sex and the City” says, a bad kisser is non-negotiable. Yes, I know it sucks, especially if you’ve liked him for a while, but if you hate his moves now, how are you supposed to enjoy your time in the bedroom?

If you insist on giving him another chance, start with telling him what you didn’t like. Be specific or he’ll get confused and offended. Don’t forget to top your critique with a reminder why you like him as much as you do — because if you’re trying to teach him how to kiss, you must really like him a lot.

In the end, I’d like to leave you with a quote that says it all:

“We are all mortal until the first kiss and the second glass of wine.” ~ Eduardo Galeano (Tweet this)

Happy kissing!

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