15 Essential Skills To Build Self Discipline
Without self discipline, your streams of grace become a flood of disgrace. Never let indiscipline weigh you down for critics to pick mockeries on. ~ Israelmore Ayivor (Tweet this)
If you’re new to the world of self discipline it can feel like a bit of a minefield. There are different types of self discipline and it can take a bit of trial and error to figure out which ones will work for you best.
With that being said here are some different types of self discipline and how they can benefit you, helping you to make an informed decision before you start your journey towards emotional freedom.
Some of the most interesting things about the types of self discipline are how much we incorporate discipline into our daily lives without even thinking about it. Most of it is done unconsciously, but is really important to keep your world running smoothly and not falling into chaos.
The skills you’ll need to gain full control over your emotions will give you freedom, and they’re something you’ve already taken a lot of time and effort in mastering. Most importantly, if you develop those skills, it will give you the ability to turn down sources of immediate gratification and to commit to delayed gratification.
This ability to accept delayed gratification is the goblet of freedom for those on the path to self discipline. It means your mind is thinking in the long-term rather than short-term, which is how happiness, contentment and success are achieved.
Working towards a delayed gratification shows perseverance and commitment. It also shows your ability to know your own mind. You are less likely to be swayed by the (possibly negative) input of others, bad habits, or passionate emotions.
There are three types of skill sets:
- Basic skills
- Constructive skills
- Generative skills
All three are important to building self discipline, and they’ve taken all your life so far to build.
A. Basic skills
The most basic of self discipline skills are the kind of skills that would be difficult for a child in kindergarten to understand, but are commonplace within the adult world.
There are five grouped into this skill set, they are:
- Listening skills
- Ability to follow instructions
- Sharing – time, space, people and things
- Displaying social skills
They all seem simple enough, but these skills aren’t ones we are born with. We are taught these skills by the adults around us. Imagine a world where none of us had mastered the most basic of skills? It would be chaos.
B. Constructive skills
The next kinds of skills are built throughout our youth. They are skills we are often taught from our parents or caregivers, and they help you to gain a wider understanding and knowledge of the world, they are:
- Cooperating with others
- Understanding why we need rules
- Completing a task independently
- Showing leadership skills
- Being able to communicate effectively
They are the building blocks of being able to effectively exist in a cohesive environment, and ensure we can work alongside others to benefit society and ourselves. You are taught from an early age that rules are important, they help you to cooperate with others because there are boundaries and expectations put in place.
Knowing the rules and where you stand builds confidence in your ability to work as part of a team. Building upon this understanding is how you become confident enough to show leadership skills and effectively communicate with other people.
The self discipline and control it takes to develop all of these skills is the difference between leaders and followers. Some people will simply follow the rules, cooperate with others and listen to others, whereas those who commit to developing all of this skill set will succeed further than the rest as they show self control and discipline.
C. Generative skills
These are the ones I want you to focus on. By now you should most definitely have developed a clear and mature capability of exhibiting the skills in the previous two groups.
But, it’s important to remember how much we have had to master over our lifetime to be able to effectively communicate and cooperate with one another. It takes a lot of time, effort and patience to be able to understand why we communicate, why you need to follow certain rules and being able to solve problems.
These skills come about with a more comprehensive understanding of the world. By the time you have developed these skills you understand the needs of others as much as your own. You are able to truly empathize and organize how important you are when it comes to helping other people.
If you want to bring about change, effectively communicate with each other, and have a clear understanding of yourself and the world, these last five skills are the ones you need:
- Organization – Time, Space, People, Things
- Resolving Mutual Problems
- Taking the initiative in problem-solving
- Distinguishing fact from feeling
- Sacrificing/serving others
You need these skills in order to bring the freedom of self discipline into your life. These five skills bring together all the skills you need to give yourself freedom with self discipline. Being able to organize yourself, and others around you, gives you the capability of creating meal plans, structures to your workweek or exercise regimes.
Being able to distinguish fact from feeling is another key trope in the freedom of self discipline. You are able to take a level-headed approach to problem solving, and rather than reacting in an irrational and emotional way, you are able to be objective, calm and rational . . . thinking about how the situation will best serve you and your long term goals.
Taking the initiative in problem solving gives you the upper hand and control over any given situation. It ties in with having control over your emotions, as you are able to think objectively about the best way to solve a problem and how the solution can best serve everyone involved.