In today’s modern nuclear family set-up, both working parents are facing a huge challenge of raising responsible children and making their child self-dependent. For them it’s a complex project but once achieved smartly, the life of each family member gets simpler.
A little help and proper guidance encourages the child to become self dependent. Early steps towards independence are the cause of confident personality, self-sufficiency and a disciplined life. Follow the few steps mentioned below to raise responsible children and make your child self dependent:
Stop spoon feeding
Children love to explore and experiment their environment, allow them to do things and learn from their mistakes. Trial and error is the best way to develop brain and motor skills.
Encourage them to do small job like fixing own lunch box, making their bed, doing some laundry work like washing their handkerchief or socks etc. Assign them these jobs depending upon their age and capability.
Raising responsible children demands that you stop being “helicopter parents” – stop hovering over your child
As a parent we have the tendency to protect the child whether physically or emotionally. Parents tend to finish child’s homework to protect from teacher’s scolding or interrupt while child is being bullied to save from physical hurt.
Stop rescuing your child at each step; understand that you can’t be with your child every time, everywhere.
Resist yourself from saving your child at each step, it will turn out to be a big help for your child.
Explain to your child why it is important for to be careful and let the child follow safe practices.
Guide them to solve their own problems
Solving a problem on child’s behalf is another mode of spoiling the child. This prevents them from solving their own problems and dealing with difficult situations.
Suppose your child is facing some issues with classmates, ask them to resolve the matter at their level first instead of approaching you every time.
Initially your child might struggle but will soon find out solution to the problems.
Let them be self sufficient to survive without you.
Teach them to organize
Cultivate the habit to organize their tasks. Start with small things like arranging their toys, placing them at the right place and then graduate them to bigger activities like organizing their room.
Help them to plan their day, write down daily activities and follow it. Help them to draw picture reminders which they will enjoy the most.
Get them a beautiful diary or a calendar on which they can mark library due dates, music lessons, tests, school time table and date of submission of school projects. This will help them to be self disciplined and more organized in life.
Assign some responsibility
Trust the child and let them feel that they are capable of taking responsibilities. Let them take care of their sibling, purchase books from school stationery shop, or deposit school fees.
Praise or reward them for owning the responsibility. The child will cherish these responsibilities and a sense of confidence will develop.
Teach them the value of money
When you start giving pocket money to the child, specify the guidelines for proper utilization of money so that they can save a little bit every month. Teach them to save ten out of every hundred which will go on multiplying if saved every month.
So in the end they can utilize the saved money when needed most. This will develop in them a sense to prioritize their needs and money saving skills.
Never compare your child with others as every child has his own intelligence quotient and capabilities. Let them grow and develop in their own way.
Responsible children – Conclusion
Your child is your treasurer and parents are the role models. You can raise responsible children to become good human beings filled with confidence and independency – by setting an example through your conduct rather than verbal instructions.
For specific tips for kids <3 years, 3-8 years, 9-12 years and teenagers, read our blog – Helping children learn responsibility