“Be he a king or a peasant, he is the happiest who finds peace at home” – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Everyday’s quarrels and disturbances in the families result into an increased number of murder and suicide. News papers are filled with such kind of news. Inquiries conducted by the investigating authorities indicate that in most of the cases family dispute is the main trigger. Lack of understanding, tolerance, adjustments and love has shattered the relations and has ruined the peaceful image of a sweet home which in reality is synonymous to:
H – Humble,
O - Open-mindedness,
M – Mighty,
E – Endearing
It takes hands to build a house but only hearts to turn it into a home.
Let us put our heart and soul into a house to make it a peaceful home. Here are some tips for having peace at home.
Shun out the negativity
Negative attitude is the root cause of strained relations and lack of peace at home. See the positive side in each situation and towards others.
My friend told me, “From last two months my husband has been coming late from office and is not paying attention either to me or children. On top of it he has a lady boss. I think there is something wrong. I am sure he will forget our anniversary also.”
To her surprise on her anniversary the husband gifted her diamond ring and told her about his promotion which he was planning to give as an additional gift to the family on their anniversary.
That was the positive side of her husband which she could not realize because of her negative thinking which disturbed her peace of mind as well as that of the home. So for a harmonious and peaceful atmosphere it is very important to be a positive thinker.
Accept difference of opinion and bridge the gap
Difference of opinion is inevitable and also healthy. It is best is to overlook small issues to maintain a harmonious environment. Through gentleness and care bridge the gap and make others understand our point of view. Accepting the difference of opinion and holding the worth of others in high esteem are clear signs of respect which create a pleasant atmosphere at home.
Workout the issues amicably
When it’s about giving in then do give in. And on those matters that you cannot concede-avoid making a major issue out of that. Though difficult, try to leave the topic for a while. Talk when the environment is comfortable and relaxed. This helps in better understanding of the issue and actually leads to better solution.
It is better to maintain a difficult peace than an easy quarrel.
Give space to each other
Interference in each other’s work disturbs the peace at home. Do not hold a lot of expectations because as human beings we all expect respect and privacy. Whether parents or kids, everyone needs their freedom of space, constant nagging or questioning leads to irritation and disturbances.
A survey by CESI Debt Solutions released last year showed that 43 per cent of married Americans spent money secretly because they wanted to avoid an argument with their spouse. Build trust for each other and set free the boundaries.
Say thanks to God
Thank God for at least once a day for giving us the gift of life. Pray for patience, love and peace, the vital ingredients for a peaceful home. Practice of these three elements will blossom the family.
Peace at home – Conclusion
Home is a place of expressions, tenderness, togetherness and peace. Let its cool breeze always flow there. May you have peace at home.
“It is not enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it is not enough to believe in it. One must work at it.” - Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962)