Love is best expressed through actions. By actions one means caring for the person, looking out for the person, being there in times of need and also being there to share happy moments. In other words, any deed which is backed by words of love. Does that mean words of love are not important? Oh, they are. Gestures of love, like making a personalized card, or say even buying a special occasion card for Valentine’s Day or Mother’s Day or gifting flowers are all welcome. But, just “gestures of love” or mere words are not enough.
One often hears how card companies have commercialized the whole emotion of love. Well, it takes two to tango, so the hype would never have happened, had not people been taken up by the idea. It is fine as long as this is just an aid, and not the end.
For Example: What’s the point of making a call or sending a card and flowers across Mother’s Day, and then forgetting about her existence till the next second Sunday of May next year again? (Traditionally second Sunday of May is when Mother’s Day is celebrated).
Sophia Loren had correctly said, “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child”.
Indeed if you love, then make it a point to spend some precious time, because time spent together is what is most appreciated. It is sad, how it is common to hear that children cite lack of time to be able to spare time for their ageing parents, but make it a point to make a show of love and make the mandatory call or send a card on the so-called designated special days.
We hear that multiple love relationships or even extra martial affairs are on the rise. But, at the same time huge corporates who are in the business of promoting love, rake in huge profits, with Valentine’s Day and the days that lead to February 13th as the most lucrative. It does not seem to add up, does it?
Obviously the true essence of feeling of love gets lost somewhere. One just performs the act of expressing, without feeling the emotion.
In a similar vein, friends profess lasting friendship and love for each other, but do not hesitate to dissect (not so pleasantly) the same good old pal when the camaraderie is not so wonderful any more. As some one has rightly said, Love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.
Gestures of love – final words
I don’t profess to know all about love, or what it ideally should be for someone else. But I can tell you what it is for me:
• love is a warm heartfelt hug;
• love is offering comfort on difficult days;
• love is trusting someone enough to be sharing my innermost thoughts and being comfortable and secure in the knowledge that my feelings and thoughts remain safe.
Love is just being me. Love is my face lighting up with joy, when I spot my loved one from even a distance.