How to build a Positive Relationship

Despite the fact that the world is filled with people, it is still difficult to find and relate to more than the few people who love and care for you. All of us are blessed with some close relations that are always with us in our good and bad times. Apart from these relations, we develop different relationships with several people who we meet as part of our personal and professional lives. However, developing positive relationships with these people takes strong effort on both sides. We can build a positive relationship if we avoid certain mistakes that can ruin things even before it starts.

Giving negative comments

Sometimes, you really want to help your buddies, but you really hurt them by your comments. Before you comment about others, first judge the gravity of that comment. If you don’t appreciate those comments for yourself, stay away from giving them to others too.

Dishing out criticism

This is another problem that damages a relationship to a great extent. Avoid criticizing other people for any reason, especially in public. On the other hand, if the other person criticizes you, try to ignore that or take it in your stride. Read more at How to handle criticism. Help yourself to grow further and bring improvements in your life. It is a must to deal with critical people and build a positive relationship.

Giving solutions when others do not need them

It is not always required of you to give a solution to another’s problems. It is important that you have strong listening skills if you want a strong relationship. Most people have solutions to their problems, but they want someone with whom they can share their problems. They feel relaxed when they share their emotional burden by speaking it out. The most important thing here is “trust” since these are the weak moments for the person when he or she shares their personal problems. To develop a healthy relationship, be a reliable friend instead of being an agony aunt. Also, it is important see what the other person is looking for, and to adjust yourself accordingly.

Jumping to conclusions

This is one of the biggest mistakes that put people off . If you think you are the know-it-all person and jump to conclusions or pass judgments immediately about others, it is enough to make people intimidated and insecure in your presence. Try to be humble with everyone and ignore other flaws if there are any.

Being bossy

Most people try to be bossy or controlling wherever they go and with whom so ever they meet. This controlling nature can be smothering for a relationship. People do not like others to tell them what to do and how to do. Instead, you can motivate them and inspire them in an engaging manner to do what they are good at. This kind of action will create a kind of respect for you.

Being unresponsive

Being not responsive to another’s initiatives puts people off. When you are at the initial stages of a relationship and the other person extends his or her warmth by sending greetings, messages and other invitations, it is important to respond on time. Otherwise, they will get the impression that you do not care about them and will not respond back when you contact them in future.

A continuous complainer

If you are a continuous complainer and keep complaining about anything and everything, people will start keeping their distance from you. Constant nagging and complaining, drains your energy and other people’s energy too. People want positive people around them. Instead of always talking about serious things, try to share some jokes and see how it changes the atmosphere in the room.

Not keeping promises

Many relationships do not reach even the initial stages as people do not show commitment in their behavior. Commitment in a relationship is very important. It can be anything from keeping promises to responding to favors, but keeping promises is critical. Go ahead and try these tips for a positive relationship with the people you care about.